Perseverance

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Can you say that again? Dia paysin. Dia paysin spelled d I A p as o n. It's a noun. Now. It has three type of meanings. First, an oregon stop sounding a main register of flu pipes, typically of eight foot pitch. Okay. Second meaning can be a grand swelling burst of harmony, so you can say, oh, the orchestra had a great diapaysin that one. I can see me using and the third meeting for this the entire compass, range or scope of something. That would be probably where I would use that dia paysin. Is that how I say it? Dia paysin? Okay, God, dia paysin. So you know in a sentence, I don't just want one option. I want to choose from the dia paysin. That would be the third meaning of use of the noun. The entire copis range or scope of something, so that's probably where I would use it. But again, the diapasin from the orchestra sent chills through my body. Eh Okay, the final chord of the hymns sounded the dia pasin through the cathedral, which would be the first meaning, which is probably where I wouldn't. I really wouldn't use that in that in that sense. So so there you go. Now you can. You can go out and impress all the folks today with your big brain. Dia paysin. That was today's word Smith. Well, oh you didn't give me the effect, mister producer. Come on all looking out Wordsmith, word of the episode. You gotta be quicker on the draw than that, mister producer. I'll tell you you're not up for a razor or an employee review, are you no? Okay, good, all right, No, I'm just kidding. So anyhow, welcome one and all. Welcome to this little ditty here I call Weis's Thoughts, and I'm glad you stop by. And hey, you know, if you like the program, just leave us a rating and review. Even if you don't like the program, leave us a rating and review. You can do it right on the website at Wis's Thoughts. And oh, by the way, there's a blog on my website too, called Weise's Life. God enough shreamless plugging. So what are we Let's get down to brass tacks, as they say, what do I want to talk about today on the program? I want to talk about perseverance and the ability to adapt on this episode of Wife's Thoughts. And I've had some people reach out a little more coffee here. It's early morning as I'm recording this episode of the podcast, so I try to say if you drink cold stuff, it's better, but it's a warm liquids cup of coffee or tea or something. But anyhow, anyhow, I digress. I want to talk to you about perseverance and the ability to overcome and adapt on this episode, I've I've had people reach out to me and they say, hey, you know, Terry, you talk a lot about, you know, certain aspects of life, what to do, what not to do. You give advice, you give your your real world examples, and we truly appreciate that. And you know, they they asked me, they said, well what do you do? You know a lot of times people ask me, well, what do you do in this situation or what what do you suggest in that situation? And I'm going to preface and like I write back to folks when I you know, when I respond to them, I tell them, listen, I am not any kind of licensed professional, no medical mental health advocate. You know, I took no formal training. I didn't even take an introductory class or anything. So, you know, taking the advice from me just so you know, you know, I'm just the plain old Joe and Jane Schmoe like you out there, just kind of doing my thing and we're all making our way through life together. I've just I've had some experiences that I'd like to share that I think that hey, maybe this can help somebody, or maybe you know, somebody can say hey, I've had a similar situation like that, I've gone through something like that, or oh man, I'm going through that something like that right now, T And I get where you're coming from, man, And if I can help, great, because that's what I do when I find myself in a situation where I'm like, hmm, I just don't know what's going on, I don't know what's happening, or I just I'm at a crossroads. I guess is the easy way. When I'm at a crossroads trying to figure something out, I will seek out or listen to folks that aren't I don't know if I want to use the word smarter than me, maybe more experienced, more you know, have have had a little more life experience, or may have gone through something similar, or just have a good ear to listen. I guess that's the easy way to say it. They've got a good ear and they're just listening. They're good to listen, and so I find that helpful. Now, that is not to say that I as soon as strife or indecision may strike me, because let's face it, it strikes everybody. We all have to deal with it at one time or another. In our lives, some of us more than others. That being said, however, don't get the idea that as soon as some strife or indecision, you know, enters my life that I'm running for, Hey help me. You know. I sit and think about things. Some would that know me maybe more. I ruminate more than I should. I'm just a thinker. That's something I've always been, ever since early childhood. I'm a thinker and that's what I do. Man. I think on things. So when I come across an obstacle, I try to think it and figure it out for myself first, and gather information from different sources that I deem worthy of giving my attention to and credence to. So to overcome I mean perseverance and have persevered, you know, to overcome adversity or in that and to have perseverance, I think you have to, at least as for as far as I'm concerned, you need to be willing to be flexible. That's one thing you've really got to need. You have a need to be flexible. That's that's really important. The other thing is that you need to be willing to surrender yourself and surrender your ego and oh man. I know for me that can be that can be a challenge. And I've heard some say, you know, there's a lot of egotistical people in today's society, and I tend to agree with them. And you know what, my friends, at times, I'm one of them, you know, because hey, let's face it, we all want our way, right, you want your way, you want things to work out your way. You know, we all set expectations on things, and you say, hey, you know, I want this to happen. I want that to happen. You know, you go into a job interview and you say, hey, I want, you know, thirty dollars an hour to do this job, and they come back with twenty and you're like an you negotiat or something like that. Or you go to a holiday event or party and you say, I want, well, they better serve the food this time, and they better. You know, we all have certain sets of expectations, even dare I say, even as far as our own lives, we have expectations. You know, I want to be making X amount of dollars by this age. I want to have X amount of dollars in the bank by this age. You know, I want to do this, do that you know and have x amount of this, And when things don't happen the way we want them to, then you know, that indignation, that procrastination and things like that can creep in and you know, make us miserable. I mean, let's be honest, I've had it happen to me many times in my life. And that's where you have to really persevere and learn how to deal with with obstacles and have great perseverance, and sometimes seeking outside counsel is the best thing. Now, some people turn to their friends, some people turn to family members, some people turn to a combination of those to do that for them. I guess it all depends on your social circle and whom you feel most comfortable in confiding it. And some people don't have to. Some people just would rather take themselves away into you know, either walk in nature or they just kind of seclude themselves for a while and then go from there make their decisions and chart their course of action. But the thing is is that your best, at least I feel your best decision. You serve yourself best, I guess is what I would say. You serve yourself best when okay, when you do not make harsh, rash decisions off the cuff. I mean, haven't you found that to be the case. I mean somebody said, hey, you want to do it, and you don't think about it and say yeah, okay, and you commit to something, and then later on you're like, oh, I shouldn't have committed to that. I really didn't want to do it, or oh I got it, I forgot I got a scheduling conflict, I didn't look at my calendar or what have you, or you say, you know what, I had a you know, I've had four bad days at work, you know, the heck with this place. I'm quitting. And you get emotional and you make a rash decision and then you're like, oh, I shouldn't have done that. I should have just taken a few deep breasts. I should have Or you maybe blow up at a friend or colleague, you know, because you're having a bad day. You know, you stubbed your toe getting out of bed, and then the shower was cold, and then there was a traffic jam on the way to work, and you spilled coffee on your favorite tie or whatever, or you know, a pair a pair of pants and you're just having one of those days and then someone says good morning, and you know I's got about it, and you snap at somebody and then you're like, oh, I was a jerk. Yeah, I shouldn't have done that. So you know, there's lots of things, you know, making rash decisions and that can lead to that. So you know, perseverance, I mean in anything. And I've shared many times on this podcast one of my long term goals. And you I mean, come on, let's face it, you guys out there, no, you know, we've been talking about this for a while at least I have. You're probably sick of hearing me say it. I want to get out down to one hundred and ninety nine pounds, and I know some of you out there saying, all right, Terry, yeah, blimp. You know I'm getting there. You know, to sixteen. We're heading on there. We're heading on the downward escalator again. You know, one time my heaviest I was, I was approaching two thirty. And you know I'm I mean, I don't mind oversharing a little bit here on the podcast. I'm six foot almost six foot one. But you know everybody says, well, you don't look bad. I mean, you don't look fast. I can, I can see it in my face a little bit. But I definitely carry that around my mid section, A lot of my weight around the mid section area, which is not I know it's not good for you, but I am starting to lose some of that as well. And overall, you know, as you gain in years, shall I say you gain in years, you find that, oh boy, that my knees carrying this extra you know, seventeen pounds, twenty pounds around has really hurting my knees and my back. You know, I've had some back concerns over the years and some minor knee inconveniences over the years, and I feel that just getting down to that, you know, shetting that extra twenty pounds would be so beneficial, you know. And it's about perseverance, it really is. It's about dealing with setbacks, how you handle dealing with those setbacks and overcoming and persevering, and a lot of us struggle. I mean, I'm right there with you, especially those of you, my friends who are on that you know, the healthy weight journey. I'm right there with you. Believe me. I don't wait shame anybody. Is that a term mister producer. Wait, shame, shame weight, don't wait shame. Yeah, I mean I don't sit there even I have relatives that are morbidly obese, and I pray for them. I but you know, it's hard to have a conversation with them about it because you don't want it to come off like you're being condescending or shameful to them. But you know, I have said in a couple occasions, Listen, I love you dearly, And the only reason I'm saying this is I have concerns about you. I understand it's your life. You're going to do what you want to do. Ultimately, at the end of the day, you're going to do what's best for you, and I get that. I totally do. However, I just want to tell you outside third person perspective, what I'm seeing, and I'm here to help in any way possible. I'm here for you, okay. The tea Man's here for you, and it is no way of judgment on you or anything. You know. I think try to approach with love, but it's it's sometimes we need that encouragement to persevere. You know, you need encouragement, You need somebody to step in and say hey, I'm on your side. I'm with you, I'm willing to help, I'm willing to lend a hand. And that's a great thing that can be and that can be a great motivator. I mean, at least for me. I know it has been. It can be a great motivator. Sometimes somebody steps in and says, hey, I heard you're doing this, and man, good for you. You know, if there's anything I can do, let me know. I'm here for you. Sorry, a little more coffee, Their apologies. You just got to keep the pipes somewhat lubricated here this morning. But overcoming those those obstacles in that and that's tough. And you know, it doesn't matter what the obstacle is. You know, some people have certain phobias and disorders, and believe me, I can empathize with you. Some people have fear of leaving their house, fear of crowds, fear of flying, fear of social situations. It seems there's a lot of that going on in the world today, isn't there. There's a lot of phobias and a lot more awareness of mental health, especially you know, after what happened in twenty twenty, you know, there was a lot more focus on the mental health thing aspect of our lives, which which is good, Which is good. There's nothing wrong with that. I feel that obviously it's something that we should have been focusing on. Dare I say along? You know, some people just got left by the wayside and scoffed at, literally scoffed at, because oh, what's the matter with you? I mean, you don't like crowds or you don't like I worked with a young lady about a decade ago in a in a in a situation in an office place that she had a god lover thing when things got loud auditory, I mean loud crowds, loud music, loud cheering, you know, kids screaming, yelling at whatever, loud noises at a certain consistent level. Not I'm not talking about oh somebody's yeaying yippie or short burst. I'm talking about something where like a crowd mumbling, noise was getting loud and everything. She had a fear of that and it caused her great anxiety. And uh, you know the first time it happened in our work situation where we were we were in a you know, we had a crowd, a crowd of people in the uh in the location we were working out of, and myself and a couple other people noticed that she just disappeared, and you know, she's in the back of the break room just kind of sitting there, staring off, and you know, went in and say, hey, you know, is everything okay? Are you're not feeling well or whatever? And at first she was reluctant. But you know what, I give her kudos. I give her great credit because what she did is after a moment or two, she says, no, I'm all right. You know how everybody says that I'm fine, I'm all right. I mean, if you're not, say you're not. There's no shame. And to her credit, and I applaud her to this day, I think about this every once in a while. I applaud her to this day. She said, you know, I just I'm fine. I'm not sick or anything. It's just that I have a very sensitive reaction to loud auditory sounds, like loud crowds or loud places. And sometimes she goes not all the time. It's a weird thing, she said, terry, but sometimes it just overwhelms me. For I don't know what reason, and it makes me very anxious. And I looked at her and I listened, the best thing you can do in that point, at that point, if someone's telling you something or coming to you for your advice, or opening up to you, because don't we all have a fear of opening up, especially to people that aren't close knit friends or family, you know, our colleagues, and that sometimes it's it's a scary thing to open yourself up to someone else. And it can be. I mean, some of us loved overshare, you know, some of us. It's a very personal, very deep seated personal thing. And I just sat there and I listened to her, and I waited for her to get done, you know, speaking, And when she did, I nod and I said, you know, I hear you, and I can understand that, certainly, I can understand that and empathize with that. And I said, you know, and I just started talking with her, and I think I believe, you know, we talked for about fifteen twenty minutes, just general banter. I asked her, you know, more about Hey, you know, when did you notice this? Really? Oh my god, you know, and I started thinking back to you know, you know what I get it sometimes I'm not the best person in big crowds or you know. And and we just talked, and I think just talking to someone really listening to them, not listening to answer, but listening to listen, and that's a great skill. And that's something I still trugle, uh struggle struggle with learning how to speak, because another thing that's something I still at times struggle with is listening to listen. That's a great skill. I'll tell you, if you want to improve yourself and if you want to really you know, people will love you if you just listen to listen first and then respond. Because a lot of us and myself included, I'm raising my hand virtually here in the studio sometimes and some of some of us more times than others in conversation, we listen to respond. And I believe by just listening to her to listen, taking a few extra moments, really internalizing the information I was getting in the fact that this this other human being was opening up to me about, you know, her her obstacle and something that she was dealing with, and then just offering honest, insightful, caring insight and conversation I think really helped in that situation and then we went back out, you know, onto the onto the floor there of the location, and she was pretty much fine the rest of the day, which was okay, you know. And I'm not telling you that to get a virtual pat on the back to say, oh, Terry, you're a hero. No, I'm just saying sometimes to persevere or to help someone with an obstacle, sometimes they just needs someone to listen to them. Listen to listen, not to respond. And that's something that that's a mantra I put in my head sometimes, especially when I'm having a conversation because I don't know about you. I've done it. Someone's telling me about something and they're they're going on and on about it and it's important to them, and you're listening. You're looking at them eye contact and nodding, and you might be hearing after a minute or two, only every other word because you're thinking, what do I got to get off that shopping list? Do I got to go shopping later? Do I got to do this? And you're not really focused on the other individual, And that's a disservice and I'm just as guilty of it. So I think listening to listen instead of listening to respond is definitely a great skill that we all can keep working on continually. But things you can do to overcome obstacles and to persevere, you just got to You've got to be willing to when when needed. You've got to be willing to seek out advice from others or other sources, open up your mind, expand your expectations, and not pigeonhole yourself into this is the only outcome that will work for me. You can't have that. You've got to be You've got to be like, as Bruce Lee once said, be like water. Water can flow and adapt. You know, when water gets blocked going downstream, it'll look for other avenues. It'll look go round up above, down to the side, to the diagonal. Water looks to get through any way it can. How many have you ever had a leaky roof you know what I'm talking about, or a basement you know, flooding problem. You know, water will look any way to get where it wants to go. So I think as far as us as human beings go, the best thing for us to do would to be be like water. Listen to advice, you know, set you know, expand our expectations, be willing to, you know, just listen to other people, take that information into account, and know that you can accomplish what you need to accomplish. You can persevere, you know, don't The quickest way to success is to respond and rebound from every failure in one form or the other, no matter what it is. As you know, there's so many people out there that have said, I want to do this. I want to start a business. I want to sing, I want to learn an instrument. I want to expand my vocabulary. I want to read more books. I want to get healthier. I want to change my eating plan. I mean, I can go on and on and drone, on and on with all the things people say say they're going to do, But how many of us actually get out and actually do it? Yeah? None, Yeah, we wait, we wait, We always wait, and why do we the following? Yeah? All right, stop, mister producer. You're hurting me here, you're hurting me. Many of us just sit on the fence and mister producer, I don't know. You got to stop touching buttons in there. Are you drinking caffeinated coffee? That's probably why. But yeah, you know, many of us, like I said, we do a lot of you know, we say a lot of things we want to do, But do we do the things we say? You know, do we make those changes? Do we set that goal? Do we make steps to achieve that goal? Do we constantly look for ways would just and find ways to overcome and persevere? Hey, thanks for listening to the program today. I truly appreciate each and every one of you out there, and remember, to see a change in the world, you have to be the change in the world you want to see. It all starts with you, the person looking back at you in the mirror every morning. Remember to be kind to yourself, be kind to others. If you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss. Stop by the website Wis's thoughts dot com just to make sure you spell my name right. 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