Time

It's something we're all given, it's something we can't buy, and it's something that we will eventually run out of, so it's something we better not waste this time on Wise Thoughts. Hey, everybody, welcome to another episode of Wise Thoughts. I'm Terry Wise, and I am so happy that you stopped buy the podcast today. And hey, if you're enjoying this, would you do me just do me a great favor? I would really appreciate it. Go to my website, wise thoughts dot com. Wise thoughts dot com. It's easy to get to. Just make sure you spell my name right Wyce wise thoughts dot com. There you can listen to each in every episode of the podcast and check out leave some commentary if you'd like. And also, hey, why you're there, Would you do us a favor? Leave us a rating and review. You can do it right on the website or with your favorite podcast provider. It's all waiting for you at wice thoughts dot com. Really truly appreciate it. And if you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss. You can find me on Facebook. It's really simple. Just look for Facebook dot com and in the backslash wiice Thoughts, and I've got a YouTube channel as well, okay, appropriately named wice Thoughts, So you can go there and check that out. All right, so we got all that kind of fun stuff out of the way. How are you? How are you doing today? I hope all is well. If you go to the website, by the way, White thoughts dot com and check out the blog wice Life. That's the name of the blog. If you click on blog on the website wice Life. I put up a post this week about time. Now that's what I want to talk to you about to day on the episode of the podcast. Time is something that we're all given. It's a gift we're all given. Some of us are given more of it than others while we're on this while we're on this plane, some of us are given more than others. However, it's how we choose to use that time. Okay, how do we choose to spend our time with our friends, loved ones, our life. To be quite candid, how do we choose to spend our time? And it's really important, I think you know, and I explained this in the blog post over atwatthoughts dot com that when we're young, we think, oh man, I've got forever, I have nothing to worry about. I'm you know, we have this this false sense of security that we're gonna live forever. Not so all my friends. You know what they say about life. No one gets out alive, and that is ever so true. And as we gain in years, well, especially for me, I don't know about you, but it seems like as we gain in years, our own mortality, our own finite existence, becomes more and more evident. Well it is for me anyway. I mean, I'm just a middle age dude now here. I'm in my middle fifties, heading towards that big six zho. And I know some of you out there saying terry, hey man, t M I as the youngsters say, too much information? Brother, Well, you know, I don't mind sharing. There's certain things I don't mind sharing. I mean, some people take, you know, privacy to an extreme. N you don't know nothing about me, ever, No, never, I don't mind sharing certain things. I mean, I'm not going to give you my bank account numbers, or are my social Security number or anything like that. Never will. But anyhow, it's amazing to me. You know, we all think we you know, Oh, I'm gonna live forever when we're young. I mean, I was just talking about, believe it or not with my mother this because my folks are up visiting from Florida, and it's great to see them. We've had them here now for almost, you know, a couple of weeks plus, and the first time that me and the wife have got to see my parents together at the same time. Usually Mom would come up and stay a week or two. Dad would come up and stay a week or two. Because they have animals, and unfortunately, when they live in Florida, it's kind of you know, to find someone to watch them, you know, to watch the animals. They were you know, apprehensive, shall I say, about having one anyone keep an eye on their animals. And I can understand that, I mean, you know, animals or family to most of us, at least to me and a lot of people I know. Anyhow, we were fortunate enough this time to have Mom and Dad come up, both of them, and we're spending some quality time with them, which is it's really nice, it really is, I'm must say, and we are we are enjoying this simple fact too that in spending this quality time with them that we get to, you know, share some stories, share some memories, make new memories. And one of the things that we mean, my mother were talking about here, you know a few days ago, was that how quickly time passes, you know, I said, you know, because she was saying, yeah, I didn't want to wake up one day and be almost eighty. It just it was poof, you know, poof, you know, in a blink of an eye, it seems. And I told her, I know what you mean. I remember us being younger, you know, I mean, my sister being younger. And when you'd get off for that summer vacation, you know, at the end of June here in the Northeast, when school's let out and still continue to do. At the middle end of June, you're like, oh my god, I got all this time in the world. I've got all this time. It seemed like forever. But if you think about it, it's you know, middle of June, middle of a lie, middle of August to like the first or first week of September. So you've got three months, you know, I mean, and three months to the young mind can seem like forever. But it seems like that the summers go by quick. I don't know about you, but it seems like the summers are going by quicker and quicker and quicker, and you just you sit there and you shake your head and go, wow, man, this is pretty incredible. And I've heard it said and sometimes I experienced this. I don't know about you, but the older, or shall I say, the more you gain in years, the faster time seems seems to travel. And I'm finding that's the case in some instances, not all. The other thing, too, is have you ever noticed with time that if you're doing something you really enjoy and you're really immersed in it, that the time just flies. You know, you know that old expression, I'm flies when you're having fun, Well, it's true. Or if you're stuck at the office or stuck in a situation that you're really not digging and you're like, oh my god, the hour, you know, the minutes seem like hours, the hours are seeming like days. I've had days like that at the office when I used to go into an office where some days you were just you know, you were not feeling it, and you go, oh man, this is going to be You've heard people say it. You might have even said it yourself, Man, this is going to be a long day. And lo and behold you set yourself up for that. Oh my god, Oh, this is this day ever going to be stopped? You know? Come on, I want to get to the end of this day, man, come on, And you know you're you're stuck with that. So I guess one of the main things is we've got to realize that time is a gift. We're all given time, some of us again, more time than others. You know, some people are taking too soon in life. Some people tragically end their life too soon or do stupid things to have caused their life to end too soon. And I don't know about you, but no one gets out of life. A lot, you know, gets out of life alive. You know. There's an old expression. Everyone wants to go to heaven, no one wants to die to get there. And that's I've heard that said many a time. I think that a lot of us and I'm speaking myself too. I'm putting myself in with all of us here. We waste a lot of time. We veg out in front of the TV. Now I'm not saying that watching TVs or you know, binge watching, which is one of the new fads here, binge watching series on Netflix or you know YouTube or Amazon Prime, all those you know those places, Amazon Prime or you know Paramount. I've done it. I've been watched a series. I said, you know what, today, I'm just vegging out, man, I'm having coffee, I'm washing up, doing the necessities, getting my workout in, and I'm just going to vege today and shut out the outside world for what you need. Some of that what they call downtime. Sometimes you're just going to turn everything off and just go on sheer lizard brain and go, hey, this is what I'm doing today, man, I'm just chilling hell out. That's that's okay. However, if you're doing that all the time, that's probably not the best thing to be doing. And in retrospect, you know, some people do it a lot. And again you're just wasting time now, I'm you know. And again, by the flip side of that, I'm not saying you have to go through and schedule your days and have you know, forty eight things done your to do list that you'll never get done. You know, you know you can schedule things and what you don't get done, you push off to the next day or next day after what have you. Okay, that's that's fine, but you should allow yourself the moderate use of time, the proper use of time to you know, delegate it properly to maintain it. And I think a lot of us, and again myself included, we need to really develop a healthy respect for time because it's one of those things you can't buy more time. You can't no matter how rich you are. You could be a multi billionaire when your time's up. Their time's up, you know. And the funny thing, one of the funny things is is that some of us that are really wealthy, and I'm not saying not me, but you know, these multi billionaires and trillionaires or whatever they got here, you know, and in the world, they think that their money can buy them, you know, while their money may be able to buy them nicer things and nicer amenities, and you know, get them into the best hotels and what have you. You know, you flagrant diamonds and jewels and what have you, all the toys that come with the ability to that you have when money is no object. The one thing you cannot buy is time. I don't know, of anyone that was, you know, independently wealthy beyond their wildest dreams or even our wildest dreams, had the ability to say, okay, well I'm eighty years old. Here here you go, here's here's one hundred million dollars and now all of a sudden, magically I'm thirty again. I mean, if you knew of someone, let me know. But I don't know of anybody that have. And boy, wouldn't that be something if you could do something like that? Right However, that being said, you know, it's it's just not there. It just doesn't happen now, the idea that time being finite for lack of a better term. We have to learn to balance and know how to use our time properly. And it's all a balance. Life is a balance of things. And at least as I gain in years, this is what I'm learning. And I wish now some people have learned these lessons earlier in life, and God bless them, I wish I would have. You know, there's some people that just they seem on the surface. On the surface, mind you, they seemed more on an even keel, where you know, they know how to balance work and play, downtime, work time, you know, crunch time where you're really cramming as much as you can in all right, these are all things that they seem to do. And those people on the surface, it looks like they've got it all together. Man, They're they're good, they're ready to rock and roll, they're moving along, they're doing their thing. And I think a lot of us can use some help with time management. I know I'm one of them. I'm always looking for a little things. You see little things on websites here and there. You know, you've got these self help gurus that will come out and say, hey, I'm going to help you manage your time. I'm going to help you, you know, get get ahold of your time with better time management skills, and those things may be worth looking into, because once your time's up, your time's up. And I think a lot of us just either out of sheer ignorance or a lack of understanding or fear or other things, just trying to push all that to the side and just not think about it. But sometimes you just have to do a little thoughtful, introspective thought for lack of a better phrase, and say, you know what, I'm really going to take inventory of my life, and I'm going to say, how am I spending my time? Am I structuring at least part of my day and allowing some free time later in the day for other activities such as what I want to do? And that's kind of what I'm looking into now. Is looking serious seriously, is at how do I structure my day? What am I doing with my structure of my day to better organize the priorities that I want to accomplish. And when you do this, I feel that if let's say you put five things on your to do list for a day, you get those things done. Let's say you get four of them done, Okay, And I'm not talking about major project deadline said this has to be done by this date. I'm talking about let's just take it at its simplest form, mowing the lawn, cleaning out a closet, getting a workout in, calling in, following up with a friend who might have been feeling under the weather, and making an appointment to get your car in for an oil change. Okay, those are just I don't know, five things off the top of my head that I just made up right here on the spot for you. If you get at least four of those priorities for that day, you're going to feel, first all off, a sense of accomplishment. You're gonna say, Okay, let's say I got all these done, except it was raining, I couldn't mow the lawn. There you go, valid excuse why you couldn't get the lawn done. But the other four items on that list you accomplished. So right away you're like, okay, now, out of those those five things, the four you've got accomplished. Now you schedule some free time for yourself later in that day, you know, uh, you know, watch a movie, read a book, what have you, visit with a friend, whatever you want, Just put in your schedule free time. I mean, we all nine percent of us carry around these little things in our pockets. You know that we're always a lot of us are staring at And I'm just as guilty of doing it as you. Okay, I'm not claiming some moral high ground here. However, a lot of us spend too too much time doing all the apps. Don't believe me, But anyway, this little thing we carry around in our pocket usually has a calendar. There's also apps they make for scheduler, But I find I never have to go any further than the calendar on my native phone, which is an iPhone. I just go into calendar, And whether you use Gmail, they have a calendar built in, that's kind of what I use on mine. I just I like the Gmail. I had a Gmail address before I had gotten an iPhone. God, I've had a Gmail address for twenty plus years and I just I just use that for my scheduling and everything. I just put in my day what I'm gonna do. Boom boom, boom, boom boom. Now I know iPhone has a reminders app and all this, I just really haven't. I've been lazy, lacks of daisical for lack of a better term, and have not dove in on how to use that. But I'm, you know, maybe I should. Maybe that's something I should make time for, right. Apologies, if you hear the squeaky studio chair in the background here in Studio B today, we're gonna have to, mister producer, We're gonna have to get this chair oiled. Okay, somebody's gotta you know, either that or my fat butt's got to lose a couple more pounds. But I don't think it's my fat butt so anyway, So yeah, just you know, no further than your cell phone calendar, make yourself a to do list, make it manageable, and put the important things for that day in there, okay, and just start ticking those off as you do them, and once they're done, then you'll have free time and at least there's a sense of accomplishment. Now, a lot of people will say, oh, I can remember what I gotta do. I'll just remember everything I need to do. I tried that route for a while, and quite frankly, it just doesn't seem to work as well for me. It just doesn't seem to feed my motivation. Number one, because if you have something to look at with time, some tentative time scheduled and allow yourself, you know, a half hourly way, if you can between things to get accomplished, at least you know. I if I don't have something to look at, say okay, I want to do this, this, this, and this. If I try it and do it and keep it all in my brain, I sometimes do that, or I start adding more stuff instead of focusing on what needs to get done, I start shuffling around the priorities, and then that can create a whole other set of different messy circumstances in itself. So those are just some things. You know, there's some tips from Terry. I guess you can say to see if maybe it'll help you with better time management, because I've talked to a lot of people and I tend to still say it as well. And you know how many times do you call up a friend or something and say, Hey, what are you up to? Oh, I'm just so busy. I just don't have the time. I gotta do this, I got to do that, I gotta do the other thing, and you're like, oh, a lot of people. You would be really really surprised if, when you start thinking about it, how many people say, oh, man, I'm just so busy, I don't have the time. I'm so busy. I'm so busy. And you're like, okay, and you've probably done it yourself. I know I've said it to people myself. I am just so busy, man, I got so much to do. I can I call you later, I'll talk to you, or you're just either that or after making that statement of how busy you are, you ramble on for thirty minutes with that person telling them how busy you are. I've done it, so you know, on this episode, what I'd like you to take away from here on White's thoughts is start thinking about time in a different way. Remember, time is finite. Time is something we can't buy more of. Okay, as far as our life goes, and things we want to accomplish, get done, what have you. And we're going to visit this topic again real soon. But I just wanted to give you an introduction kind of some things to think on, some things to contemplate as you go out and go through your day here and you go on through your week and that just remember your old paltary here saying, you know what, time, I've got to be more mindful and respectful of my time because your time is precious. Your time is valuable, and you want to choose to do the thing and activities and pursuits that respect your time. And you also want to hang you know, hang out with people that respect your time too. Don't go don't get you know, involved with those time suckers, you know, the people that just want to drag you in and pull you down into their world. If well, you know blah blah blah abe and next thing you know, you're sitting there. You know, you're like a free psychologist listening to seventy minutes. You know, if somebody tell you about how disastrous their life is, and you know, I mean, I guess that's good in some cases, if you know you got a close friend or a relative, you want to help them out. But some people can be time leeches and they pull away your valuable time, and next thing you know, you're behind on what you want to do and what you want to accomplish for the day. So again, what you want to do is focus on your time, focus on what's important to you, and spend your time wisely, my friends, because at the end of the day and the end of it all, at the end of your life, you can't get back time until next time. This is Terry Wise for wise thoughts, remember check out my website wise thoughts dot com. Wysee wise thoughts dot com. Check out my YouTube channel. Just search on YouTube for wise thoughts. And if you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss. If you want to email me, it's very simple. You can send it to mail m Ai Lmail at wise thoughts dot com. 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