Stop Being Rude

It's time for a virtual campfire sit down with Terry Weiss. Welcome to Weiss Thoughts. Hey, heydido there, campers, Welcome to our virtual campfire sit down. Welcome to Wi's Thoughts. I am Terry Weiss and I am so glad you decided to join me today on the podcast. Just want to let you know I have a website for the podcast, weissthoughts dot com. Just make sure you spell my name right wy c E weis Thoughts dot com. There you can listen to each and every episode of the podcast. Also, while you're on the Weis's Thoughts website, check out the blog at the top of the page. It's entitled Weiss's Life and there I wax poetic on all the show topics and uh, whatever happens to strike my fancy at the time. It's all waiting for you at Weis's thoughts dot com. There is also a YouTube channel called Weis's Thoughts. Search for it on YouTube. And if you want to reach out to me on X I used to say tweet at me on Twitter and I still you know Elon Please can you change the name of the platform back to Twitter. I just like Twitter, but anyway, you can contact me on x at Terry Weiss and also I have a professional website, Weissproductions dot com. If you're looking for any kind of audiobook, narration, voiceover work, anything that you want a voice applied to, I'm available. Check it out. Think you'll find me very wallet friendly. All right, enough, enough of the shameful plugging as it were. How are you? I hope all is well with you as we gather yet again around the virtual campfire as I like to call it. And what are we going to talk to? Oh? Pray tell? What are we going to talk about? I should say on this episode of Weiss's Thoughts. Here's what I've been thinking on, even dare I say go as far to say I've been ruminating on And sometimes rumination is a good thing, and most of the time, most of the time it's not. But I've been ruminating and thinking on today's society and the rudeness. And I'm not trying to make this a negative episode of the podcast, mind you, but the out and out rudeness of some people. And maybe it's because I have higher expectations than maybe most. I just don't understand why some people are as rude as they are in today's world, and especially especially in the United States of America from whence the program cometh. I encounter it almost daily, and I know some of you out there are probably sitting there shaking your heads, rolling your eyes, saying, come on, terrry. I mean, you know what, water off a duck's back, Let it go. But here's my point. There is a certain level of rudeness that I will just let go. However, there are some things that really they're a burr in my saddle, as it were, a pebble in my stone or a pebble in my shoe. And one of the things is is when you're talking to someone on the phone. And I have worked in the past customer service oriented jobs where people would call in to the organization and speak with you, and boy, oh boy, some of you out there, man, you better check yourself when you start calling businesses up because you, and I'm saying you as a generalized statement, some of you up there out there have this era era, this air about you, this attitude that you think you are the greatest thing since Christ walked the earth. And you talked to customer service representatives horribly, horribly with such disrespect in that. And I know some of you again are gonna probably roll your eyes and you're out there saying yeah, but you know, sometimes the business really screwed up. And you know the double triple bill. Well, remember, folks, it's not the poor sap on the end of the line that's answering the phone's fault. They didn't have a meeting, a secret meeting in the break room that day or even the week before, and said, hey, we're gonna miss Terry Weiss's account. Yeah, let's do that. There is no malice or forethought in it. It's a screw up now wherever it happened, whether it was somebody pushing a button or lack there and of it is not that individual who picks up the phone and says, hi, thank you for calling X y Z. My name is blah blah. How may I help you act like an adult. I've had times, believe me, I've had times where I've been hot under the collar. You know, when an organization is not once but twice in the span of a short time span screwed up something on my account or access or what have you. And I've been pissed off for lack of a better word, have been very pissed off. However, However, I checked myself before I call the organization and realized that it is not the other individual picking up the phone. I would go with the conversation something to the effect of, Hi, this is Terry Weiss and here's yes, I know you have to verify certain information. Here you go. Okay, So the reason for my call is I'm a little bit and I'll use words such as confused. Bewilders is a great one. If you're angry and pested, substitute that for bewildered. You know, I'm a little bewildered by this charge I got or the double charge I got. I was wondering, might you be able to assist me in better understanding it? And if not, maybe direct me to whom I need to speak. Wow, doesn't that sound professional? Doesn't that sound like you're a human being addressing another human being and not being a total fool and acting like a child. At some points, we do have way too many overgrown children in this nation, my friends, that really need to look in the mirror and address their behavior. Because contrary to your beliefs out there and believe me, I had to learn this lesson quite a few years ago. Well, and I am still a work in progress. But you are not the most important thing on this planet or in the universe. You are a not even a grain of sand inside of a grain of sand in the big scheme of things. You're just happen to be hitching a ride on this big blue warb like the rest of us. Now, I'm not saying you don't have a right to be angry and you know, experience your feelings. Not saying that at all. We all do. We all have a right to our feelings. However, contrary to what maybe being pushed out in society nowadays or in the past decade or two all over the world about you know, your feelings matter more than anything else, and no they don't. You have a right to experience them. You have a right to feel them, and you know. But the thing is, you need to work through your failings like an adult. You're not nine years yars old anymore, sir, ma'am you They them us, we are not nine years old anymore. Act like an adult. And if you can't, if you find yourself losing your shit, as they say, losing your composure, losing yourself. Every time the littlest thing sets you off, well then maybe it's time to seek some mental help. Seriously, I've had periods in my life where I've like, you know, my wife is my sounding board. She'll be like, honey, let it go. Oh my god, you're like a you know, like you're like a dog with a bone. It was just you know, a little bit of extra onions on your sub you know, just for an example out there. So I am not standing here on a moral soapbox or a moral hightop mountain looking down on all of you and saying, oh, all hailed, Terry Weiss, I have all the answer. I am the epitome and an example you should follow. No, what I'm saying is that just things I encounter here in my life and have encountered and continue to encounter every so often on a daily basis in my travels around this planet. I'm letting you know, yes, I've been there, done that, and just what I'm seeing, what I'm experiencing, what my experience is, and how I feel about it. I'm expressing my feelings on this podcast, so not only in that, but also you know, you people on the other side of the phone. You folks that work out of business or on the other side of the counter, Hey, listen, listen up, all right, listen up. You're getting paid to do a job. Whether you agree with the pay you're getting or not, whether you like your job or not, you're there. You're being paid. You're not doing it for free. Last time I checked a mo most businesses will pay you a salary or an hourly wage and some form of benefits. Act accordingly. When you're representing your organization, your you know your your business. And if you're having a bad day, you got two options, my friends. You can call out sick and don't go in, or you stuff that garbage and compartmentalize it. There's a word compartmentalize. Learn what it means. Look it up on the internet. Compartmentalize that issue that's going on at home, in your personal life or whatever. Shove that stuff to the side, put it in, put it in its place. You deal with work and be pleasant and polite and do your job. And I and again, I'm not coming from a uh from a standpoint on this side of the microphone and saying, hey, I've never been a jerk to someone. I have, we all have come on, let's be honest. Let's be honest here on the podcast on White Slots today, shall we. Let's be honest. There's too much fakery going on. You know. Oh, my life's perfect, I've got it belowing. None of us have it all together, even these people, these influencers you see on social media that have this seem to have the perfect life. Oh we're vacationing in the Hommeptons this year and I'm going to the Bahamas. But everyone has problems. Everyone falls short, everyone has a bad day. Sometimes bad days, sometimes bad months or years. We all have issues sometimes our issues have issues. Okay, we're all there. We're all in the same boat. So understand that. And to and if you think that some influencer on social media or some person that you watch on a talk show or a video podcast or a news type show or a documentary has it all together, think again. We all have issues. We all have a private life, we all have our own secret issues. We're dealing with family issues, what have you. But you've got to learn to compartmentalize, especially if you're public facing in a profession that does that. How many instances have you seen? Come on, let's be honest again, honesty here in Whyite's thoughts around the virtual campfire today. How many things have you seen on the news about people losing their composure, losing their stuff in public, getting thrown off planes, getting thrown off out of concerts, getting thrown out of businesses doing I mean, there's all kinds of videos of it all over the internet because we're all carrying a mini TV studio with us nowadays. So you really can't get away with acting like a buffoon I said, buffoon or a goofball, because odds are it's going to be caught on camera somehow. So your mind as well, make the effort to invest in yourself and learn how to handle and work through your feelings and stop being rude and ignorant. And I'm talking to I'm saying this to myself as well. I continually work on it too. There's been times I've snapped at my wife and she's like, what the heck is wrong with you? Sorry? Made bad sleep. I apologize, learn how to I apologize for my behavior. I apologize for my flippant remark Hey, thank you for your patience and putting up with me. The other day, I. Was not on my best behavior. I appreciate it. Things like that, and again, learn to compartmentalize those feelings, work through those feelings. And if you're in a profession where you're going to be facing the public, do the one of the two things. You either call your ass out and stay home, don't go in, or compartmentalize it and work through it. That's what adults do, That's what well adjusted people do. And you know what, once you learn how to work through your feelings and address them and come to grips with them and come to acceptance with certain things on your feelings, I got news for you, You're gonna be a happier person. Honestly, Look how many goomy cusses are Why Well, it's the political climate, that's why I'm so angry, or oh I don't make enough money, or it's the weather. So what those things are always going to be around. There's always going to be factors around when my kid did this, or my wife did that, or my friend did this, or this one's not calling me back, or that one's ghosting me. So what, you are responsible for your own happiness. You don't need to be rude to other people. You don't have to deflect and you know, I know there's a mental health term for it, where you take your crappy feelings and how you're feeling will project. There you go. You don't have to project your misery onto other people. See how that works. I did that mind process there, mister producer, sting there, look at that. I'm amazing, I am wonderful. Yes, No, anyhow, you don't have to project your misery and your sadness onto everybody else. Quite frankly, we don't care. Well, we care to some extent, but for gosh sakes, we're all in this big blue warb together. We're all traveling together. So stop being rude to each other. Okay, And if someone's having a bad name being rude, try to have a little understanding. You don't have to fight fire with fire, as they say, Try to have a little understanding and compassion and realize. But again, you're responsible for your happiness. Stop being rude. America. Hey, thanks for listening to the program today. I truly appreciate each and every one of you out there. And remember to see a change in the world, you have to be the change in the world you want to see. It all starts with you. The person looking back at you in the mirror every morning. Remember to be kind to yourself, be kind to others. If you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss. Stop by the website Whis's thoughts dot com just to make sure you spell my name right, Wye wis Thoughts dot com, and hey, leave us a positive rating and review on your favorite podcast provider. Won't you tell your friends, tell your family, tell your pets about wife's thoughts? And I look forward to gathering yet again around the virtual campfire with you real soon. Take care Every