Let it Go

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We're gonna talk about it on this episode, So grab your favorite beverage, pull up a seat around our virtual campfire, and let's get ready for another episode of wife Thoughts. It's all coming your way right after this. Don't you go nowhere. Thanks for listening to Wife Thoughts, liking what you hear We'll go to the website to find more AT's Wife Thoughts dot com, WYC E T H O U g H T S dot com. There you can listen to more episodes, comment on a show, check out the Twitter feed, and so much more. It's all waiting for you at my website at wice Thoughts dot com. And hey, do us a favor? Would you leave us a positive rating and review? If you're enjoying the podcast, you can do it right at the website or on your favorite podcast provider. Now let's get back to the show. Hey everybody, welcome, Welcome to another episode of Wice Thoughts. We're so glad you're here and decided to join us in the virtual campfire today, and we hope all is going well with you, and just quick updates. Purple Pitt Studios dot com is the website the main website for all our shows, but you can find Wice Thoughts there as well. And again, welcome, welcome, one and all. If this is your return visit to the program, thank you for remaining a loyal listener. If this is your first time listening, welcome, and we hope you like what you're here and you will come back for more sound good? Great? All right, well let's get into it, shall we. First of all, let's do something that I kind of started a couple episodes back. I want to give you as soon as I find it here, and you know, shame on me. I should have had it, I should have had it. There we go. The word of the day is the senial vi c I n A L. And what it means is neighboring or adjacent. Let's see, my dog's loud barking disturbed every vicinial household. So now you can be smarter and have people think you are very intelligent by using the word of the day or the word of the episode. We'll call it the senial vi c I n a L. The sinial it means again neighboring or adjacent, like what I did. It is the guy that was aggravating me. I not only punched him in the face, but his vicinial friend. I don't know if that's exactly how you would use it in that case, but that's how I was using it. So there you go. There's your word episode word for this episode of Wife's thoughts vicinial viic I n A L. You can look it up. It is an actual word, and that is the actual definition. See see the length I go to to please my audience, the things I do, I tell you that I will go, the lengths I will go to to make sure everyone is happy and satisfied, and you know, all that kind of good stuff. Any hoot, what else we got going on? Now? Rewinding back to the last episode or two that I did, had some feedback about one of the last episodes, the one entitled they are Illegal Again. Illegal immigration is definitely definitely a hot spot in this nation and definitely something for contention in the United States. It strikes a nerve and you know as well it should, because ladies and gentlemen, this is our home here in the good old USA. This is our home. And I would say, probably if I had to throw a number on it. This isn't anything scientific or anything, mind you, but I would say about eighty five percent of you agreed with my comments on the last program. Go look it up. It is called they are Illegal is the title the title of the episode of voice thoughts. And the other fifteen percent of you did not agree with me, and some of you tried to make valid points, but again, you're not going to change my mind. As I stated, you have a door on your house, you have a lock on that door. You do that not only not because you hate the world outside, but because you love the people inside. And it's the same thing with these illegal lawbreakers crossing into our nation. This is even a matter of immigration anymore, my friends. Like we talked about, it's an invasion. It's a wholehearted invasion of this country. And shame on our current administration for not doing anything about it, especially just leaving everything wide open again. I think they're trying to buy votes through their supposed good stewardship. I doubt that their their motives are genuine. But anyway, that's a topic for another show, you know, maybe a part two of They Are Illegal, but look for that. But thank you for all the feedback on that. Some of you hit me up on Twitter about it as well. By the way, if you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss WYC. Just make sure you spell my name right. I mean, it's really not a hard name to spell. But I've had all, you know, incarnations of it. I've had w ei ss WYCC. You know, it's wy Ce Terry t R. R y last name ys wy Ce, pretty easy one to remember. So anyway, we hope all is well with you and yours full swing here as we've just gone past Memorial Day weekend here in the United States, and so the official start of the summer solstice has begun here in the Northern hemisphere, which is good. It was great weather. I did some cooking out, visiting with family and friends, but not losing sight of what Memorial Day is, and that is the remembrance of those who paid the ultimate sacrifice, gave the ultimate sacrifice for our great nation, the United States of America, by laying down their lives so that we can have a country and freedoms as eroded as they may seem to be getting here in this day and age. But you can't lose you know it. Memorial Day weekend is just not about good weather and swimming and you know, taking taking a siesta or you know, grilling in the backyard or what have you are going to you know, go and camping, And it's really about the ultimate sacrifice that was paid by the folks in our armed forces in the past to you know, suffer the ultimate price by giving up their lives for our freedom and defense of our nation and protection of our way of life. A lot of people seem to get Memorial Day confused with Veterans Day. Veterans Day is when we honor those that are still alive that have served and whether they saw comment or not. Memorial Day is the ones that didn't make it back, Okay, So that more immemorial immemorium, easy way to remember it. So that being said, I hope your Memorial Day was safe and happy. So that's all I'm going to say about that. What else do we got going on? So sometimes you have to let go to allow better things to come into your life. That's what we're going to talk about on today's episode of Wife Thoughts. And I've been thinking a lot about this lately because I don't know about you. I'm kind of I still have an issue with this, with hanging on to things longer than need be, a past transgression, past hurt, a past slight if you will, things that piss me off. And my wife says, you know, sometimes you're like a dog with a bound. You just won't let nothing go. And that's not healthy. It's been proven medically, you know, scientifically that it's just not healthy and mentally too. Emotionally when you ruminate over something over and over in your mind, and sometimes you just have to let shit go to allow better things to come into your life. Absolutely, you have to take a step back and just kind of reassess things. I mean, if you had an argument with somebody recently, I had a family member about a year or so, over a year now of just totally totally cut me and my wife off with without so much as an explanation. We hadn't had any words, we didn't have any cross words, we didn't even have a mild funny disagreement. Him and my cousin and his wife. I'll just say it, my cousin and his wife, I won't use his name, just totally cut me and my wife out of their lives. And we were pretty close up until that point, my friends. Which was the sad thing is we were close. Although he lived in another part of the country, we would keep in contact with phone calls when they came to town, they would visit. Daven had invited us out to visit and we were planning on going here in the next year or so. I would to spend a couple of weeks with them, and then just one day out of the blue, the ghosting started, and I'm like, oh, okay, I don't know what's going on. So I thought maybe it was just busy, you know, busyness, but it wasn't. And I tried to make contact for a few weeks, then let it go for about a month and try it again. Nope, nope. Finally got a hold of him at one point and he told me, in quote uncertain words, man, just leave me the funk alone. I'm like, what what's going on? I did we do something and hung up on me. No one's been able to tell me what me or my wife may have done wrong. I think they just lost his fucking mind for some reason. So it hurt. It hurt like hell, and I was angry about it because there was no reason given for that behavior towards me and my wife. And finally I came to a point where sometimes you have to let go to allow better things to come into your life. Evidently he's got either some mental problems or some substance abuse problems, or I don't know what. However, I've just let him go. I've cut him loose. I don't wish him no ill will I just don't wish him anything. I'm like, goodbye, see yuh, And it is what it is. But I found out a few months later down the road that he had done this to others too, So I'm thinking maybe it's a substance abuse problem or mental health issue at this point, and I feel sorry for him, and I hope he gets his life right at some point and maybe once to try and have a relationship, as after all, we are family, but usually it's family that fucks you over the worst, you know. I mean, strangers can do a number on you, but man, family sometimes going to really fuck you over bad. And that's it's not a good thing. It's not a good feeling. And I'm sure many of you listening out there have run into that where your family has just done something so egregious to you that you're like, I can't We're family, how could you do this to me? Why would you do this to me or why would you act that way? Or why would you put me in this position? And I try not to do that to others intentionally, I really do. I mean, if I stepped on toast in the past, absolutely absolutely I have. And I can't sit here and claim any moral high ground because I've done some pretty shitty things in my past and I do my best to not repeat those errors as I move forward, I try to make myself a better person. And again I'm not saying this to say, oh, look at me, You look at me, you know, like a peacock fluttering around. No, I want to be a better patterson. I don't want to be a shit heel, you know I don't. And with that situation happening to meet myself and my wife, it really made me take stock again and realize that sometimes you have to let go to allow better things to come into your life. With letting go of him and whatever baggage he was unwilling to share or unwilling to work out with us for whatever reason, I have found another person that you came into my life a few months later, that became a good friend and still is to this day that I work with and I think we have a really good bond. You know, even even though quote unquote he isn't family, but I you know, I feel like we could be as close as family. We're just not you know, related by blood. But so that was, you know, one thing, letting go of one thing, and all that baggage that it came without emotional drama, unnecessary ruminating, and move down to something else. Now, you could also put this forward and say, you know, maybe you went through a bad divorce, or you lost a job, or you know, what have you again, those things you just you have to work through them the best you can. There's lots of services that are available for everybody, you know, to take advantage of in the world nowadays, and you have to just push forward and move ahead. Ladies and gentlemen. All I'm going to tell you is this that life is short, Okay, life is very short. I mean the the little pin, you know, the little drop, the one drop in the big vast ocean that we are here at the time, our finite time that we are here is not even like a grain of sand in eternity. You know, if you're lucky, you'll live to be eighty nine, one hundred years old, God willing and being in great health until you pass on to the next plane and the sweet by and by. And why waste any precious moments harbor grudges, living in the past, you know, things of that nature. Why bother? And again I am just as guilty of falling into that trap because it's easy, isn't it. Isn't it easy just to be a miserable person and be grumpy and be pissed off all the time. Ah, Yeah, it's easy to fall into that. You know. You know that expression misery loves company. There's a reason for the expressions, folks. And because it's true, and I am just as guilty as some of you out there, many of you out there, many of us out here, of falling into that it happens. It's just so easier to do that than to take what I call the moral high road and say, let's look at this rationally, let's look at this logically and get through it. Do what we gotta do, suffer what we got to suffer, and move on and come to terms with things, you know, whether it's that past relationship, that past friendship, that that family member, that job, that situation, uh, you know, the disappointment. Let's say you are trying to do a certain thing or start a business or you know, what have you. And the other thing to do with with that is doors can always open for us, we can always just but we have to let go of certain things to allow other doors and opportunities to come our way. That's just the bottom line. We have to allow that. We can't keep trying to go through these doors. It'd be like trying to go through a door, okay, in your home with let's say you you know, you know how when you come home from a long trip, you usually have your carry on. Then you got two or three suitcases and try and go through the door at one time with that. Now, unless you have extra y doors in your home, but I'm talking about your average with door three three, four, three and a half four or foot whatever it is, you're not going to get through that door with all that baggage. So by letting things go, you let go of that baggage so other doors can open up for you. Makes sense, it does to me. And we have to do that because by carrying all the things with us forward, all it does is mess up our here and now and possibly ruin our prospects for the future. That's the way I see it. Anyhow, So think about that. I want you to think about that sometimes you have to let go to allow better things to come into your life. I just wanted to wax poetic and give you some personal experience on me and again this is something I am still working on. I work on daily. It's not one of these things like, oh yeah, I did that, I'm donea moving on now, because it's easy to slide back down into that rut in the road as it were, and say, oh crap, I'm acting this way again. I catch myself all the time. So just to think about that next time you're holding on to a grudge or you know, you're talking about something that happened maybe a week ago, three weeks ago, a month ago, six months ago, six years ago. Honestly, sit down in a quiet space, close your eyes and think what benefit am I getting from this? Am I getting any benefit? If anything? If anything, what I've learned is that you should look at that situation when and say, you know what, here's what I've learned. Don't trust this person, or don't what that happens, don't do this or what have you, and take your lesson from it, file it away in your in your mental file cabinet, and you in your subconscious mind, in your conscious mind, and move forward, leave it in the past, and then move on to a better tomorrow. So but then you know, if hey, if you want to comment on this. If you've got any comments or suggestions, hit me up on Twitter at Terry Weiss Wyce. You can look for us also on Facebook go to Facebook dot com backslash Wie Thoughts. You can see everything that's going on on Facebook as well. And if you want to check out my YouTube channel, just go to YouTube and search for Wice Thoughts. There I do lots of musical stuff and things, and some vlogging and everything else, all that kind of mishmash of stuff. Purple Pit, Purple Purple, the color Purple, Purple Pit. 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