Change and Getting to Know You

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If you decide you want to subscribe on another medium, there's a blog called Wice Life. Just make sure you spell my name right, w y Cewice Thoughts dot com and again there you can listen to each and every episode of the podcast. So let's delve rate into the show. First. We're going to start with kind of a new feature we launched an episode or two back. It is time for the Wordsmith word. And what that is is I try and help you and I learn as well by developing our vocabulary, learning new words and the meaning of said words. So what we were going to do right now is this is is this week's word Smith word helping you become better at vocabulary along with myself. And here is this week's word Smith word assurient. All right, it is assurient spelled e s u r i e n t assurient e s u r i e n t. It's an adjective. It means hungry, like oh I'm hungry, I'm very assurient or greedy. Kind of a dual meaning. It's from the Arabic language. So the ways you can use assurient and a sentence is when I skip breakfast, I feel positively assurient by lunchtime, or you can do here. It's not healthy to have such an assurient attitude with your finances. So those are two opposite meetings. Again, it can mean hungry or greedy. So that's this week's word smith word, which is of course, yes, a surient. So I don't know what happened to our audio there, but it's gone. Man, we had it. We had our audio at one moment, but as surient e su are I E n T. So that's the san there we go, Thank you, mister producer. It's our word smith word today and again means hungry or you can use it as meaning greedy. So very interesting. I find that very very interesting because you know, I'm learning new words just like you are, and that's I think it's kind of cool, man, It's very cool. So hopefully you'll enjoy that and use it maybe in conversation in the upcoming week as well. So by the way, too, before we get underway, I am also on Twitter at Terry Weiss. If you look for at Terry Weiss on Twitter, give me a follow on Twitter and I post all kinds of good things and you know, et cetera. On Twitter. Well, Twitter now known as X. I keep wanting to call it Twitter, but it's X. Sorry, Elon Musk. I've just it's been Twitter forever and I'm just probably like many of you out there, having an issue with getting getting transformed over to the new format as well. Oh yeah, yeah. Anyway, welcome, welcome one and all. Welcome to Wise Thoughts again. I am Terry Weiss, and I am so glad that you decided to join me today as we ramble on through the program. And it is fall. It is definitely that time of year. It is fall here in the northeast and half of the United States. The leaves are changing, attitudes are changing as we get back to getting ready for winter here in the northeastern half of the United States. And you know, it's just a weird time of year. I mean I like spring and fall myself. I don't know about you, but I really I really dig spring and fall because it seems to have the most comfortable weather, all right, and most I mean everything starts cooling down. You can go outside without bursting in the flames or freezing your cooliuns off. And if you don't know what Kolians are, looked those up. That was an expression my grandparents use. Coolions means you're butt but cheeks. Anyway, that's an unofficial definition courtesy of my great great grandparents and grandparents, but you could go outside without freezing off your coolians and you got also, you know, it's just more comfortable. And for me, I don't know about you, but hey, put it in the comments if spring or fall is more comfortable for you, if you like that time of year, or better yet, what is your favorite time of the year? Is it? Is it winter, is it summer? Or is it spring, slash and or fall? You can put that in the comments section of the show on the White Thoughts website located at wice thoughts dot com. See another's shameless plug a gut in there. So as it is a time of change, usually in the fall, when we're kind of getting ready to change over into air quotes here in the studio winter time, okay, and I wanted to talk a little bit more about change. I know I talk about that a lot. But again, one of the things that I struggle with, and I'm going to just share with you, because you know me, I'm I'm forward and forthright with you. You know, I share certain things we're trying to to overshare about. I share things. One of the things I tend to struggle with and in talking with some of you here in the past a week or so. You a lot of you out there too, seem to struggle with as well. Is just getting your keyster in gear two? Change that that kicking the keyst to you know how many just I'll use the most popular example out there and probably in the United States and probably on the planet. I want to lose weight. That's the big one. I mean, I would say ninety five percent of the people I talked to, and I'm right in there with you, folks say I want to lose some weight. Now, some can mean five pounds, ten, fifteen, twenty, one hundred, what have you. We all have varying degrees of you know, what we would like to shed as far as the pounds go. And with regards to you know, changing and changing our mindset, changing our way of thinking, changing how we do things, changing an attitude, changing a lifestyle, as far as that goes. It's something that I know I struggle with and I have to kind of keep myself in check, as it were, to maintain the attitude of yes, I am going to do this, I am going to get this done. And they say it takes about thirty days. That's the rumor. That's the rumor. There's some scientific evidence to back this up. But it takes about thirty days to form a new habit, and or I've heard it takes longer than thirty days. It takes about thirty to forty five days, depending on your psyche and how you look at things, to actually break a bad habit. So I'm not sure. I mean, because you could correlate those actually between each other. I mean, thirty days to a new habit, Well, couldn't you look at losing weight is starting a new healthier habit. I don't know, but maybe that just feels it gives the scientists something to do, or the researchers, or the polsters or what have you, to make them feel important. They say, instead of just lumping this into one study, we'll put it in two, and that way maybe we get more funding. I don't know. I don't know exactly how that works, but yeah, well, so let's let's just go. We'll go with the arbitrary thirty days to form a new habit, change a habit, et cetera. During that time, you will have peaks and valleys, You'll have times where you feel on top of the world and saying, yeah, man, I got this no problem. I got it. I'm good. I'm all in. Let's rock and roll, baby, let's do this. And then there's times where you're just like, oh, oh, give me just a panful of brownies. Oh my god, just give me a half a chocolate cake. I want ah. At least that's how I feel when I go through things. Mister producer extraordinary over they're laughing, but I remember producing, mister producer extraordinary when you quit quit smoking cigarettes? So you know you had your struggles, right, yeah, I'll shake your head. You know it. So you're going to go through through peaks and valleys. Some more than others will be affected by that. Again, a lot of it has to do with our mindset. And I've really been delving and digging into mindsets, mental health, mental ways of thinking, synapses and you know how our brains are wired as far as a species, you know, being a human being. And I'll tell you, wow, there's a lot, there's a litany, a litany of information out there as far as being a human being and what it means to be a human being. And I think this is good for all of us, not just myself. But I'm gonna employ you. I think it's a great idea to get out there and explore what makes you you learn about yourself. I'll tell you I I learned so much about myself, okay, in that learning how I think, you know, instead of just being a lizard brain, I'll call it, and you'll hear that term too. And when you start doing your own research, but instead of being just a lizard brain out of habit and say I'm gonna do that, and I'm gonna do that, and and just going by habit like a robot. Okay. I think it's a great idea, a great idea to learn what makes you you, what makes you do the things you do, what makes you react the way you react, you know. And I think that's wonderful for all of us. I mean, I I find I'm learning so much, so much about myself. And it's funny because the the insight you get, the insight that you get from doing that is amazing, my friends, I can't tell you how amazing it is that the insight that you will you will gleam from just learning, you know, what makes up you. You'll learn maybe different ways to react to certain situations. You'll learn how to adjust how you react you'll learn. Hey, this, these are certain things that I can't react in this way anymore. Here's how I change things. Here's how I can adjust my way of thinking. Here's what I can do on a daily basis to attain and achieve those goals that I want. There's just so much insight that you can gleam from learning more about about yourself. And I do implore you and you don't have to go to some fancy schmancy psychologist, and that you know, I talk a lot on this on this podcast about the Internet, and you know, I rag on and I bitch on the Internet a lot about you know, how people just use it for real crappy means and and and a lot of people do. A lot of you. This is your this is your you know, your toilet, you know your mental toilet. You just come in here and rage against people, some of you, a good portion of you in the world, especially in the United States. You come in here and you you just dump your toxic waste into the Internet by raging against people you don't even know and spewing off just utter garbage, stupidity. And but this, but this, however, is an instance where I think the Internet is a beneficial place as far as obtaining knowledge and and understanding. I can One place I would direct you too is go to YouTube and just search human psychology and or just do a search on how to better understand yourself. And I'm going to put a couple of links in the podcast show notes here for you on this episode of White Thoughts of some decent places on YouTube that you can actually go and start learning about yourself. And boy, you know, you will be amazed. You will be utterly amazed at what you can learn for free. Now, granted, not all the information maybe fun and perfectly accurate, but there's a lot of good information out there for you to ingest and you know, just take in and you know, do some self reflect thing on. You know, the internet can help with a lot of mental health issues, but especially once you learn more about yourself. I think that is vitally, vitally important, especially if you're looking to change. And you know, since again we're in the fall here in the year twenty twenty three, heading into the change of seasons in the Northeast, like I alluded to earlier, and wanting to change, and it is a hard thing for us human beings to do. I mean, at least for most of us. I know some people can say, well, I'm just going to do that. But you know, if you look up some of the biggest searches on like Google, you know, weight loss, getting healthy. I mean, first of the year, what do you always hear about New Year's resolutions. I'm gonna lose weight. I'm gonna go to the gym. The gym's love love New Year's I'll tell you the gyms and health clubs. Because a good sixty to seventy percent of the people will that pay for gym memberships for a year or sign up for gym memberships. They go once or twice or maybe a month, and then after that it's just free money for him. But like I said, it's it's really odd. But you know that's that's the thing. We're gonna take a quick break, and when we come back from the break, we're gonna talk about more about change and about how you can get to know yourself so you can more effectively put into action change in your life. It's coming up rate after this on White Thoughts. Hey, everybody, welcome back, Welcome back to the program, Welcome back to Wise's Thoughts. I'm Terry Weiss and I'm so glad you drop by and they're hanging out with us today here on Wise's Thoughts. I kind of love that rock and roll music, mister producer Coordinay, this kind of gets you going. Ear hey, And this time on the program, we're talking about change, since it is fall here in the northeastern half of the United States. From whence the program cometh and we're talking about change. And before the break, we were talking about, you know, how we as human beings, yourself and myself included, struggle a lot of us with change and how getting to know ourselves better at a more de deeper level could be definitely beneficial. And we're going to continue along with that versation right now here on the program. But hey, before we do that, if you want to get in touch with me, it's mail m Ai l Mail at White Thoughts dot com. The website is Wise thoughts dot com. Just make sure you spell my name right Wysee wise thoughts dot com for more episodes on the podcast. The YouTube channel's White Thoughts and I'm on x at Terry Weiss. All right, so we got all that done, Hey, all right, so let's dive back into it. Shall we continuing on with our conversation today about change? Change? Why not? It's fall, the seasons have changed, and a lot of people are looking to change and want to change, or some people like myself, are in a constant, perpetual state of change. And I'm gonna confess something to you, and those of you that have listened to me over the past year or so know this. It's no secret. And my better half, missus Weis, brought it to my attention the other day because I blurted it out. I have been wanting to lose twenty pounds, twenty pounds for the past three plus years, twenty pounds. And I mentioned the other day, oh, you know, I'm down to I'm back down to two nineteen. And my wife chided me, and she said, oh, oh, you mean when you were down to two seventeen and a half three months ago, but now you're down to two nineteen. And I had my quick witted retort was, well, you know, I gained weight because I over eight because of the summer and cookouts, and I was up to like two twenty one to twenty two, so I'm backed down to two nineteen. And she goes I don't think that's the idea, dear. The idea is to go down and keep going down until you attain the weight you want, and then eat to maintain that healthy weight. And I just looked her in the eye and said, yeah, I got nothing, and I walked away and she started laughing. But it's true, it's true. And again, you know, unfortunately, I'm a little disappointed. I'm a lot quite disappointed to admit that I have been pitching for the past you know, three three plus months or more, actually three years or more. But you know on the podcast here to y'all, you know, the past year plus that I want to lose twenty pounds. My ideal weight is I want to get down to a one hundred and ninety nine pounds. That's a goal. I could even do better than that, but I want to get under two hundred. For many a decade, I've never been over two hundred pounds, and then it's just started creeping up and up and up as I gained in years or became more mature. Some would differ on that statement, you know, but here's what happens to me. And I've I'm no secrets. I'm telling no no no tales here. I get going in a good direction. I get on a better eating plan. I you know, I watch what I eat. I watch my portions, my big, my big nemesis, my big Achilles heel is. I eat later in the evening. Sometimes sometimes I will eat after eight o'clock things that I shouldn't or anything for that matter. Or I'll doze off, you know, around nine o'clock, nine thirty, wake up at midnight and say, oh, I'd like to have a package of pop tarts, or oh there's a chicken leg in there left from dinner. Oh there's a little more spaghetti in the bowl. Or I don't know why I do that. I'm wondering, you know, I've asked my physician. Is this a hormone imbalance? Is this a you know, a nutrient deficiency? Because I take my vitamins and minerals, as they say, as they say down in the Bronx, my vitamins and minerals, I know how they say it down in New York City. Anyhow, I take my vitamins, you know, and minerals. I'm pretty much a daily basis. I get fair amounts of exercise, you know, four to five times a week, you know, cardiovascular and lightweight training. And the Docks said, no, that's it's just it's all in your head, tear, it's all psychological. And I know that the dock is right because when I make a strong effort to not eat after eight pm for any length of time, and I usually start seeing results within within a week of not eating anything anything after eight pm in the evening, I start shutting pounds. I lose, you know, three to four pounds. But then what happens is my lizard brain kicks in and says, hey, you lost four pounds adds adds nine o'clock. Just have a slice of cake or you know, have a brownie or you know that other chicken leg? What an I just in the cycle starts again, and then I'm rattling it and I'm a sister, so you know again, I'm not on a soap box saying hey, I've got this change thing under control and I can just snap my fingers and I'm good and I'm great, and you know, and that's why I really this past few months have started into diving in to knowing and wanting to know more about me, not just from a health standpoint, for physical health, but from a mental standpoint, mental health standpoint, because I've had times where I've had some you know, flourishes of high anxiety as it were, or anxious moments and things of that nature, and at times it's almost been felt like sometimes it's been crippling, and it kind of triggered a little bit of a health anxiety thing in me where I thought, oh my god, you know, something health wrong with me. But the doc says, my ticker's fine and everything. He just says, hey, your blood pressure could come down a little bit, and I'd like you to lose you know, I'd like to get like you to get under two hundred pounds. And I'm like, okay. And it's not like I'm some fat slob out here. I'm only like two twenty two, twenty one to twenty two. I float around there in that range, you know, two nineteen. But that twenty pounds will make a lot of difference. You know. He told me, hey, you know what you do, Go grab two you know, big water jugs, you know, those gallon jugs, and put one in each arm and just try and walk around with those ten minutes. You know. That's and that right there is just not even you know, the twenty pounds. I mean, you're carrying that around. It's it's extra whoa stress on your joints, it's extra stress on you everything, everything, you know, and it's just not healthy, not healthy at all. So I'm like, you know, so again, that's why I delved into the psyche of wanting to learn more about myself and about me and what makes me tick. And I honestly say, I've had some eye opening moments, some moments of ah, you know, epiphany is as they were, moments of clarity, and it's an ongoing learning experience, ongoing learning experience. But you know, at first, it was a little scary and a little daunting because when you start peeling back you know what's inside your brain. There's going to be some things and I'm going to tell you right now, all right, because I encountered them. There's gonna be some things you don't like. Okay, There's gonna be some things that you're gonna say, ah, yeah, this isn't a pleasant experience. I don't want to deal with this, but you have to. There could be things like past traumas, past unresolved feelings, maybe some current unresolved feelings, and sometimes you just got to look in the mirror and say, you know what, you're a piece of garbage for thinking that way, or you know what, you were rude, or you were wrong. You know, no one likes to be wrong or admit they're wrong. You know, everyone has this air about them to a certain degree. I'm more so than others. They're called sociopaths that think, hey, my crap don't stink, and you know it always smells like roses when I leave the rest of them. Well, not so, my friends. All of us have our degree of you know, moments that we're not so proud of. So you know, take that for food for thought. But I think it's a great thing. And you know, if you want to see a license professional to help you maybe change your life, change your attitude, change your ways of thinking, have a better understanding of yourself. And if you want, if you think, well I don't want to really want to tackle this on my own, or you know what, I'd rather just go talk to someone, Go find a licensed therapist. And believe me, sometimes getting that third person perspective because everyone says a lot of people say not everyone. I'm speaking in generalities, but a lot of people say, well, I just talked to my best friend, or I talked to my mom, or I talked to my dad, or I talked to my sister, or I talked to my spouse. Let me just give you some food for thought on that. A lot of times third party disinterested perspective. And what I mean by that is a person who doesn't know you, doesn't know your family, doesn't know your dynamic. They are going to be probably one of the most truthful people in your life. Ae ergo a licensed therapist, and you have to find a licensed therapist that you feel comfortable with. Remember, not everyone in every profession got perfect scores or past all the training. So you have to find when you feel comfortable with, not one that's just going to tell you what you want to hear, but find when you feel comfortable with or if not, go the self route like I've done. You know I've done that. I've talked to people in the past, but right now I'm like, Okay, I think I am cognizant and aware enough and able, and I wanted to explore what's available out there on the internet from free resources. And there's a lot of people out there that you can just look at their stuff, you know, and take it all in with a grain as salt, as they say, and make up your own mind. But it'll at least get you thinking in the right direction and get you motivated and probably help you with change. And if that works, you know, just doing that, learning more about you can help you with things you want to change in your life. Hey, that's what it's all about, right, Hey, thanks for listening to the program today. I truly appreciate each and every one of you out there, and remember to see a change in the world, you have to be the change in the world you want to see. It all starts with you as a person looking back at you in the mirror every morning. Remember to be kind to yourself, be kind to others. If you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss. Stop by the website Wie Thoughts dot com just to make sure you spell my name right. Wysee white Thoughts dot com, and hey, leave us a positive rating and review on your favorite podcast provider. Won't you tell your friends, tell your family, tell your pets about White Thoughts And I look forward to gathering yet again around the virtual campfire with you real soon. Take care