Blink of an Eye

Yeah, it's time for a virtual campfire sit down with Terry Weiss. Welcome to Weiss Boughs. Hey everybody, welcome back, Welcome back to the podcast. Welcome to another episode of Wie's Thoughts. And you know what, you caught me and you caught me sipping my English breakfast tea. H that's good stuff. Anyway, how are you? Welcome to the Wife's Thoughts Podcast. I am Terry Weiss and I am so grateful that you decided to spend some of your valuable time with me today. But before we get underway, as parer usual, uh, Wis's Thoughts dot Com is the website WYC. Just make sure you spell my name right, please, Wife's Thoughts dot Com. There you can listen to each and every episode of this podcast and so much more. It's all waiting for you at Weis's Thoughts dot Com. You can follow me on YouTube as well. Just look for Weis's Thoughts and you can also look for Terry Weiss on YouTube as well. Got two channels up there, maybe more coming soon, who knows. And also I always tell I used to say, you can tweet at me on Twitter. Man, I miss Twitter. Bring back the Twitter name. Are you listening to elon but on X It's at Terry Weiss. Also on the gram at Weiss's Productions. Also if you need any kind of work Weiss Wyse Productions dot com. Anyway, not of that anyway, How are you so glad you're here today? Let's spend a little bit of time on this episode of the Weiss Thoughts of Wie Thoughts podcast. I can speak right talking about I had a good friend reach out recently here in fact, just a few days ago. And this is why I'm doing this episode of the podcast, just to kind of go over how quickly life can change. Okay, they had what they thought was a halfway decent job. They were working from home, and it was nice. The pay wasn't great. Okay, let's they told me, Hey, Terry, the pay isn't that great. I mean, it's barely above minimum wage, but it's working from home. It was convenient. When they took the job some odd one year or so ago, it seemed like it was a halfway decent, a decent opportunity. They were welcomed in. It seemed like a very friendly and inviting place. But then they told me, they informed me this past week here a few days ago that they were getting ready to go on their break from lunch and they were asked to hop on. You know, you know how sometimes management loves to ambush you. Right, come here, let me bunchet in the corner. Come here, What are you doinge give me an answer right now? AnyWho, they were asked to hop on a quick video call, and there were a couple of people on the video call, and they said they did not get a good feeling from that, and they were told at that time that they were their services were no longer required. Now said person asked multiple times, well what why, and they were given some lame vanilla excuse by the organization of a policy. And so when the person, you know, when this person that reached out to me said well, okay, you said I didn't do this when I was doing a phone call answer an interaction with a client or a customer. Can you give me some examples. Then you know, you're telling me that you audited some calls and you decided you're going to release me from said employment, and you're just giving me a blanket statement. Well you weren't doing this the right way. Well what exactly? What? What? What? Call was it? Who was it? Or what didn't I do that I should have done? Can you tell me when where so I can correct it? And they refused to even have I guess, the common decency to answer this person's request after repeated, repeated attempts, like for three to five attempts, they said, they asked over and over again, said yeah, well, I'm a little bit of taken back because and they got angry and they said, you know what, you send me the label and stuff, I'll send your send your shit back. And they said basically go jump or open and hung up on them, which I kind of don't blame them for, you know. I mean, so what I wanted to talk to you about today here on the White Thoughts podcast is have you ever been treated badly by an employer? And I know this is a kind of a slippery slope, n for the simple fact of the matter of you know, you hear the horror stories in the media and you see it on YouTube all the time of employees taking advantage of employers, whether it's like stealing from them or stealing time or products, or you know, even in some cases money and things of that nature. And you see those horror stories, and you see those things of them not performing their job properly and acting acting a fool. I guess is the only nice way to say it. They're acting a fool. However, that street, my friends, I believe wholeheartedly runs both ways. There's a fiduciary responsibility of the employer to treat their employee with a little bit of decorum and respect and some of the tactics I've heard about and I've experienced in the past myself at organizations i've worked for, unfortunately, where sometimes management does try to ambush you. I want to give you a little piece of advice. If you ever feel like you're being ambushed, whether it's in a professional hang on, I gotta get some more of this English breakfast, whether it's in a professional setting or a personal setting, if someone tries to ambush you on a situation or a topic or wants an answer right away, and you're not at that moment but really prepared to think on your feet quickly and give them an answer. Here's a response I'd like you to give. And I learned this from someone on the internet. I am not taking credit for this, okay, and I'm going to Dan O'Connor is their name, Dan O'Connor. He is phenomenal when it comes to life coaching, especially in the workplace as well as far as he go. Look for his channel on YouTube, Dan O'Connor. He is phenomenal. Watch some of his videos, you know, maybe even take some of his coaching classes, sign up for them. A wonderful gentleman and definitely a credit to the community. And this advice came straight from him, And when I heard it, I'm like, you know what, yes, absolutely. So Let's say I'm a member of management at a job and I say, hey, you know, we got this report that you didn't do this, this, this, and that on this date and so and so, so and so. Over from accounting is that you should have done this on time and you didn't do it. Now instead of getting the fans of oh I did it. And if you're not prepared at that moment to give a professional, qualified response and you need some time to collect your thoughts, responded in kind with you know, okay, I repeat back what they're saying, mirror back, so you understand they know you understand what was just asked of you. Okay, So you're saying that Mary from Accounting said, I didn't submit those TPS reports on Friday like we were all instructed to do, and you have questions regarding it. You know what, I believe I did submit those on time. I will have to take a look at that. And and in response to your other inquiry about XYZ that happened at the water cooler and why you know while you're asking me this, I'm going to need some time before I respond. I'm going to need to think on this a little bit and you know, investigate a little bit. But I'm going to need some time before I respond. And if they say, well, we need you to respond right now, we need to answer rate the second use the broken record technique. Well that may be, but you know you've given me a lot of information and a lot lot of things here and requests. I'm going to need some time to digest this and think on this before I respond. Say I can get back to you, you know, can I get back to you in a couple hours after I, you know, look into this a little further and find out you know, what happened or what have you? Well, no, we need the answer, We need the answer right now. That may be, but again you've given me quite a bit of information and a couple of different things, or even if it's on a singular thing, you've given me quite a bit of information. And I just need some time to internalize and digest this and do a little bit of investigation on my own before I respond. I can get back to you in a couple hours and give them a timeline and adhere to it. Don't let anyone or any organization force you to give an on the spoting answer if you are not prepared. That's disrespectful to you, and you're disrespecting yourself by just throwing an off to cuff answer. Because there's a lot of people and unfortunately a lot of organizations that want to get the gotcha, gotcha, and Terry doesn't play gotcha, and I don't do it to other people either. To me, that's just rude and discourteous. So use that, Okay, you can use that technique. And this other individual you know that I was talking with here a few days ago, that was unfortunately relieved of their duties at a work from home organization stated they couldn't even get that because you know, at that point when they put you know, when they call you into the office or call you into there and they say, hey, we're letting you go, or we're laying you off, or shutting it down. Their decision has been made. You try to remain as professional as possible. But again, don't take any shit either. I guess it is the easiest way to say it. I mean, you know, I mean, don't be physical or anything like that. Don't be a knucklehead. Okay, but stand up for yourself a little bit, have a backbone, and realize, hey, it's not you, it's them. In ninety nine point percent of the cases, it is not you, it's them. So walk out with your head held I and realize. And this is some of the advice I gave to this individual. I said, hey, I know this individual. I know they they care deeply when they whatever organizations they've worked with and even personal relationships, they invest themselves. They're that type of a person. They you know, they there's an expression for it. Some people say, well, you wear your heart on your sleeve. Well, these people are some of the best people in the world. Okay that they care. They care. They genuinely care about an organization they come to. They care about doing a good job. They care about you as a friend, they care about you as a sibling, they care about you as just a fellow human being. They care about the organization, and they want to put their best foot forward every time they're out there. Now, do these people and all people, like all people make mistakes? Sure? Hell yeah, I do. Everybody does. We're humans. If we didn't make mistakes, we would be computers. I mean even AI makes mistakes, my friends. So what I'm saying here is, don't beat yourself up too badly on that. And life can change on a dime, So use it as an opportunity. This individual, after we talked for about an hour, hour and a half, you know, felt they said, you know what, I feel better, Terry, Thank you. I was kind of feeling really down on myself. I was feeling really shitty, and I truly appreciate the conversation and the you know, the ear that I could bend. Hey, anytime, you know, anytime you can help someone and offer just a shoulder to lean on or cry on, whatever it is, it's called being a decent human being. Don't be so caught up in yourself that you say, ah, it's all about me. There's so there's Believe me, there's enough people on this planet that it's all about me, whereas I, like you've heard me call them in the past peacocks. Look at me, look at me, Look what I can do, Look at me, Look at me. I'm so wonderful, look at me. There's enough peacocks in the world, my friends. Don't be another peacock, be a decent human being. But you know that's again just to show you life can change in an instant. And this individual, now they have a good attitude, they're gonna go and they've already you know, they they started that day applying for other you know, means of employment and that you know. And they'll move on. I know they'll rebound because they're a great, great person, of a great human being. And these are things you can tell yourself too. Hey, I've been fired from jobs before in the past. Believe me, we all have. I mean, I don't really know. I don't know of anyone I've ever come across in my life that says I've never been fired or laid off. It's just not the world we live in nowadays, my friends, it's not I mean, let's just be honest with theirselves. Everybody. And even if you open a business and close it, you fired yourself. Okay. It's just the world we live in. It's a fast paced world at times, and it's a it can be a pretty times. It can be a pretty artless and cruel world, you know, where you know people who just get selfish, organizations get selfish, and they don't really care. I mean some you know, people will say they care about you, organizations will say we care about you. But at the end of the day, you just go there. You do your best. You be a decent human being and that's all you can do. And if you can do that, you can hold your head held. You can hold your head high, okay, and look in the mirror and say, you know what, I'm a decent human being. I'm not a piece of I'm not a piece of garbage. I've done my best, you know, and everyone loves me, and I love myself, you know. So that's the thing. You got to love yourself because life can change on a dime, especially when it comes to jobs and employment. You know. We had a member of a friend of ours. Their son was unfortunately tragically killed in an automobile accident. A couple of weeks back on a Friday, we found out about it and it happened in the afternoon, and it was people we've you know, known for quite annumber of years, quite a number of decades. So just to you know, no day is guaranteed. Tomorrow isn't guaranteed for any one of us, my friends. I mean, you can go to sleep tonight and never wake up. I mean, it's just I don't mean to be a Debbie downer. Okay, I'm not trying to be a Debbie downer. Or I think Jesus Terry, you turned into the podcast or uplifting stuff and you're you know, you're depressing the hell out of me. I'm not trying to do that. But just remember this too shall pass. You've heard probably older people say this, elderly people, my grandparents always used to say this too. Everything shall pass. And another good thing to think of too when something crazy happens in your life, whether it's a loss of a job or you know, a friend, you know, whether it's they stop talking to you and ghost to you or whatever, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, you know, situations change and you know you're having a really bad day. Just remember, is this going to matter five years from now. Is it going to matter a year from now? Is it going to matter a month from now? Think about it. Every day you're here is a gift. The past is history, tomorrow's a mystery. That's why they call today the present. Okay, every day is a gift. Take it as a gift. Do the best you can every day. Are you gonna feel like rippitty do doll sugar plums and lollipops all the time. No, everybody has days where they're growning the dumps and they're grumpy or blue. You know they got the blues. But just take every day as a gift. That's all you can do. Because remember this is we only have one life. We're only given one life. Enjoy it. Why go through life being miserable and downtrodden. Yeah, I know, I know you're out there, sycabt Terry. Some people are really dealt a real crappy hand man. They're either born with some type of disability, or they got really crappy parents, or they had these all these bad circumstances happen to them. I get it. I understand. I've experienced some myself. I get it. But it's up to us all right, put your faith in you, God, Alla, Buddha, whomever you believe in, you know, find comfort in that. Find comfort. Surround yourself with decent people. And if those people don't work out, kick them the hell out and move on. You know what I'm saying. Don't worry about it because every day, every day is a chance, it's an opportunity, and every day that you're here is a chance to make it a better day. So don't get down on yourself. Okay, be good, Be well. Thanks for listening to the podcast today. Hey, thanks for listening to the program today. I truly appreciate each and every one of you out there, and remember to see a change in the world, you have to be the change in the world you want to see. It all starts with you, the person looking back at you in the mirror every morning. Her to be kind to yourself, be kind to others. If you want to tweet at me on Twitter, it's at Terry Weiss. Stop by the website Wis's thoughts dot com just to make sure you spell my name right, Wye wis Thoughts dot com, and hey, leave us a positive rating and review on your favorite podcast provider, won't you tell your friends, tell your family, tell your pets about wife's thoughts. And I look forward to gathering yet again around the virtual campfire with you real soon. Take care. Eight