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[00:03:25] And this week's wordsmith word of the episode is... Adonaton. Adonaton. Say that one more time for me, please, oh, computer-generated voice. Adonaton. All right. Adonaton, spelled A-D-Y-N-A-T-O-N. It's a form of hyperbole that uses exaggeration so magnified as to express impossibility or an instant of such hyperbole.

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[00:04:23] You can go share with your friends and say, look at me and my big brain and all the good things that I can do with it, with Adonaton and meeting a exaggerated form of hyperbole to add to like a story or an event, etc. So what are we going to talk about this week on the podcast and Mike's thoughts?

[00:04:45] Well, I've been thinking about this lately, especially, you know, we had a change in leadership here in the United States with the recent election that we had back in November and new leadership has taken over. Now, no matter what side of the political aisle you're on. Also, it's the new year. We're fresh into the new year here now as we start the month of February when you're listening to this. podcast from whence the program cometh 2024.

[00:05:15] And I wanted to take some time and speak with you today about the fascinating psychology behind why so many people resist change. Okay. Why do we resist change as a human being, as a human species? You know, even if it's in our best interest, we seem to resist change. And I'm, hey, folks, I'm throwing myself right in there with you. Okay. I'm right in here with you. I get it. I'm the same way.

[00:05:43] I'm like, you know, perfect example. I want to, you know, you want to lose 25 pounds. You're looking in the mirror going, yeah, I'm a fat slob. And, you know, I look disgusting. I don't feel good. My knees hurt. My back hurts. I really need to lose weight. But yet again, when that second helping of dinner comes around or lunch or those sweets, you're like, I'm the same way, man.

[00:06:12] Believe me, I'm right there with you, folks. Or you say, hey, I should be exercising more to help me do this, help me get healthier. And what do we do? We don't feel like it. Or I don't want to. Or, you know, that's just one aspect of resisting change even when we know it's in our best interest. Or let's say you're in a job that you just don't dig, man. Let's just be real honest.

[00:06:41] Let's say you're in a job that you frigging hate, okay? And you sit around and you bitch and moan and complain about your job. Well, you have a couple choices. You can adjust your attitude and try and move out of said department maybe at that organization that you're at and get some skills and maybe do something else. Or you can find a whole other job or career altogether. Maybe this just isn't your calling, right?

[00:07:09] Maybe this just isn't your calling and you're like, I got to get something new. I got to get out of here. Well, again, something that's probably in our, your, my best interest. But yet we want to resist that change. You know, and it could be a fear of the unknown. Or we're just too comfortable in our routine. You know, these are some mental barriers that keep us stuck.

[00:07:35] And folks, there's, there's a whole industry built on helping the self-help industry. You know, these self-help gurus. Tony Robbins, just to name a few. Zig Ziglar was one. There's all kinds of them. Dr. Wayne Dyer, when he was alive as well, he was another one. And there's, there's many of them, many of them out there. And I'm not disparaging any of them. Okay. I'm just giving you, throwing out some names. And these are people that you look at that, hey, they look like they got their shit together.

[00:08:06] Okay. And they have helped literally tens of, if not hundreds of thousands of people around the globe get motivated, change their lives. And in, I would say, all cases, I haven't heard of anything detrimental. In all cases, change their lives for the better. But again, we as human beings, I think our two biggest fears are the fear of the unknown. If I, and I'm not, believe me, I'm no health professional or anything. Don't be taking advice from this knucklehead.

[00:08:34] I'm just giving you my personal experience. If you can draw something from it and learn something from it, great. But I think the two biggest things, and I know that these are mine, is the fear of the unknown. And I'm comfortable in my routine. And that's why, you know, those are the two of my biggest mental barriers that sometimes can keep me stuck. You know, but the thing is, is we have to recognize the patterns.

[00:09:00] In other words, let's just say, for an example, you want to lose weight. And you say, I want to lose 25 pounds my summer because I don't, I'm tired of being ashamed what my body looks like. And more importantly, I'm tired of just feeling unhealthy and worn out. And, you know, I want to be better. I know I can be better. And we all know we can. We all know we can do better. And we all know we can be better. The potential is in each and every one of us.

[00:09:28] But it's these mental barriers, these mental blockades that we put up for ourselves. And I do it too. So, again, I'm not standing on a soapbox preaching to you from on high saying, I'm so much better. I'm right in this with you. And I say, like I say on almost every program here, I say this as much for myself to hear as for you to hopefully garner and take something from as well. Okay?

[00:09:55] So, when we talk about breaking down these mental barriers that we put up for ourselves, we have to find ways to recognize the pattern. Okay? There's a great individual out there by the name of Mel Robbins. M-E-L, last name Robbins, R-O-B-B-I-N-S. And she talks about if you've ever, if you ever have a chance to read or get her book on audio or read it called The Five Second Rule, it is phenomenal.

[00:10:25] It is so helpful in every aspect of your life. And just to, I'm just going to give you the whole quick summary of it. But basically, you just, you count down from five. Five, four, three, two, one, go. So, whether it's starting to get up earlier every morning so you can get that workout in. Instead of getting up at 8 o'clock and rushing around, you get up at 7 o'clock so you can at least do a 10 or 15 minute workout.

[00:10:50] When that alarm goes off, okay, when the alarm goes off and you're like, no, the alarm goes off. Count, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, go. And you get up and you start taking action. That's one of the ways to help break down mental barriers and to get yourself moving along. Because it's those mental barriers that keep us stuck.

[00:11:15] And it only takes one to start that domino cascading effect that can keep us stuck. So, we want to break down. We want to recognize the patterns and break down the mental barriers in our lives so that we can embrace change, not be fearful of it. And welcome change to have a more productive and happy life. I mean, whether it's personal growth, it doesn't matter if it's something we want to do for ourselves.

[00:11:44] Personal growth, career shifts, societal changes. You know, there's a lot of anxiety here, especially in the United States of America with the last election. Some folks are not happy with the way the election came out. So, they're resistant to change. I have a more of a wait and see attitude. I did that with the last administration as well. Let's wait and see what happens. Let's not be prejudgmental. Let's not go around like Chicken Little. The sky is falling. The sky is falling. The sky is falling.

[00:12:14] Let's look and see what's happening and take everything in stride and then act or react kind of in real time as things are happening instead of, you know, ruminating and speculating on that. Leave the speculation to the folks who do stocks and bonds. That's what I say. Leave the speculation to them. But that's one of the ways to move past resistance and step into a future with confidence.

[00:12:42] I mean, we've got to break down these mental barriers. And another thing that can help you break down the mental barriers that keep us stuck is find an accountability partner. If you don't feel that you can do it on your own, get an accountability partner, whether it's a friend, a family member, a loved one, and tell them, hey, I'm going to do XYZ and I need you to keep me accountable.

[00:13:11] I want you to keep me accountable because I really want to do XYZ. So here's what, and I'm just giving an example here. I want you, what I'd like you to do is call me or text me every two days. Hey, did you do X and Y today? Or did you do Z today? Keep me accountable. All right. And then maybe once a week we have a meeting, you know, a phone call or a video conference call or we go out to lunch and we talk about it. Could you, would you mind helping me? People love to help one another.

[00:13:40] You know, if you say, hey, I need you to do this. That's more of a like, who the hell are you? You're not my boss. But if you say, hey, could you, would you, would you help me with something? Are you able to help me with something? And lay it out for them. And if they say, no, I, you know, I really don't. Then move on to someone else if you feel that you need an accountability coach in that respect. Those, those were great. Having an accountability coach works great.

[00:14:07] Journaling is another way to keep yourself accountable to help, you know, when we're working on those mental barriers that keep us stuck. And, you know, as we confront things that maybe are our mental barriers, write down what the mental barriers are. Keep a daily journal. And then every week review that journal. And then at the end of that week, in that journal, after you review it, have some bullet points. Hey, I did good on this day, this day, and this day. This day I didn't do so hot.

[00:14:37] And this day I didn't do so hot. What can I take away from this past week? Well, I know I'm good, you know, I'm progressing along in X and Y, but Z I'm stumbling on. And here's why I think maybe I am. Boom. And then you push ahead and move forward the following week. So if you can't find an accountability coach, you can maybe find a way to hold yourself more accountable in a, by utilizing technology. Whether, you know, by doing a journal or a good old-fashioned writing it out, an electronic journal, what have you. Memo notes. You can do memo notes.

[00:15:07] Most phones now will allow you to make voice recorder notes, stuff like that. That's another way of journaling and keeping your thoughts as well. So, I mean, there's a lot of things that can be done to help us deal with change and to help us break down the mental barriers that can keep us stuck.

[00:15:28] And I'll tell you, nothing is more disheartening than letting you, you know, falling into that rut and letting those mental barriers keep you, you know, because you're like, oh, I'm going to do it. I'm going to do it. And then you get up there. It's almost like, you know, I'm going to learn how to dive into the swimming pool. And then you get there and you're like, oh, you get to the edge of the pool and you're like, I don't know if I can do this. I don't feel like doing this. It's scary. You know, what happens if there's a, you know, a shark in the pool, whatever. I'm being facetious, of course.

[00:15:56] But there's lots of ways for all of us, yours truly included, to dive into the mental barriers that keep us stuck, learn how to overcome them, either on our own or with some help. And in the end, by learning to embrace change, learning not to fear it, learning not to get too comfortable in our comfort zone to keep us stuck, we can step into a future with confidence.

[00:16:30] Hey, thanks for listening to the program today. I truly appreciate each and every one of you out there. And remember, to see a change in the world, you have to be the change in the world you want to see. It all starts with you, the person looking back at you in the mirror every morning. Remember to be kind to yourself. Be kind to others.

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